Hey, Long time no blog!
It’s hard to find the words to sum up 2017 thus far. Only the middle of March and it feels like so much has already happened.
A new baby and a 6 year old take up a lot more of my time and energy than I ever imagined! Between balancing my time with the boys, spending time with my beautiful wife, adjusting as a family of 4, new projects, therapy and getting enough rest, I have had a hard time getting the blog back on track.
Let me catch you up to speed.
A couple weeks before Christmas, Kase came down with R.S.V. (Respiratory syncytial (sin-SISH-ul) virus) and pneumonia. We were in the P.I.C.U. at McMaster Children’s Hospital for 6 days with him. It was one of the scariest times of my life! Seeing our precious baby hooked up to breathing machines and heart monitors was an incredibly terrifying experience.
Through many tears and a lot of prayer we finally made it out the other side. Chels and I were thankful to have so much support, through our family, community, friends, and our church. They helped with everything from taking care of Max to making sure we stayed well fed.
Max went to stay with my parents and when they picked him up, I told him that the doctor’s and nurses were going to take great care of Kase. Max looked at me like I was new, and said,
“I know. I’m not worried. He’ll be ok, Daddy.”
Kase was a champ! After a few days of air support he was able to start breathing on his own. Eventually the smiles came back and we were finally able to go home.
FROM THERE, WE WENT STRAIGHT INTO FULL CHRISTMAS MODE UNTIL NEW YEARS!
WE HAD SOME REALLY GREAT FAMILY TIME…
AND SOME PRETTY DELICIOUS TREATS!
With the New Year, came a real need to get back into routine! A break from our everyday jam was really enjoyable, but too long outside of my routine really throws me off now. I am learning that with my ABI, I can’t just ‘wing it’ as much as I used to. A solid, planned out schedule really helps with stress, anxiety, and cognitive fatigue that often come when I go too many days outside of my ‘routine’.
After Christmas holidays this year I had a hard time finding my groove again.
I was feeling stuck.
It’s not that I had a lack of things to do. I had (and have) a ton of goals, and things that I was working on, but I didn’t know where to start. I was having a really hard time ‘pressing the start button’ and I was overwhelmed.
Decision making, planning and initiation of tasks are a few things that I really struggle with since having my brain injury. The Frontal Lobe (the front portion of the brain) and the place that took the brunt of my head injury, is in charge of our Executive Functions and Self Regulation.
"Executive function and self-regulation skills are the mental processes that enable us to plan, focus attention, remember instructions, and juggle multiple tasks successfully. Just as an air traffic control system at a busy airport safely manages the arrivals and departures of many aircraft on multiple runways, the brain needs this skill set to filter distractions, prioritize tasks, set and achieve goals, and control impulses.”
Having Chelsea at home on maternity leave has been so instrumental in helping me maintain a routine. She has been a constant encouragement to me, and at times a ‘helpful pest’, to help me stay focused and to reach my goals.
Honestly, I don’t know what I would do without that support from Chels.
Is there someone in your life that lovingly and helpfully pushes you and helps you stay focused on your goals?
[Photo Cred: Caitlin Edwards of Deceivingly Normal - a blog about her families experiences and journey with Aspergers and ADHD]
In the next post you will get to hear from her! Chelsea has decided to shift her role in An Edible Therapy, from ‘behind the scenes’, and start contributing some of her own written pieces, sharing how life is different from her perspective.
I hope you have an amazing week!
Think about how you can add more routine to your life, to help free you up, rather than tie you down.
Peace + Love,